"let your boat of life be light, packed with only
what you need - a homely home and simple pleasures, someone to love and someone to love you,
enough to eat and enough to wear
and a little more than enough to drink:
for thirst is a dangerous thing"

Thursday, 2 August 2012

first love...lost love, what is love?

A special afternoon a couple of weeks ago with two special friends and a bottle of wine (only one, promise) got us into a conversation about our first loves, the excitement and romance of a first love and why that relationship (however brief) is the one that often remains the most vivid in your memory.

I am not going to get deep here or even try to analyse anything except share these 3 things which I have had saved for a rainy day (and now they seem appropriate).

And then this excerpt from Killing Yourself to Live: 85% of a True Story by Chuck Klosterman

“We all have the potential to fall in love a thousand times in our lifetime. It's easy. The first girl I ever loved was someone I knew in sixth grade. Her name was Missy; we talked about horses. The last girl I love will be someone I haven't even met yet, probably. They all count. But there are certain people you love who do something else; they define how you classify what love is supposed to feel like. These are the most important people in your life, and you’ll meet maybe four or five of these people over the span of 80 years. But there’s still one more tier to all this; there is always one person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of these loveable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable. The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they’re often just the person you happen to meet the first time you really, really, want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else.” 

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