"let your boat of life be light, packed with only
what you need - a homely home and simple pleasures, someone to love and someone to love you,
enough to eat and enough to wear
and a little more than enough to drink:
for thirst is a dangerous thing"

Wednesday, 6 April 2011

milly-molly-mandy

did you know millicent margaret amanda aka milly-molly-mandy when you were young?  she was the creation of joyce lankester brisley and "the bestest sister" and i recently rediscovered the books in our local book warehouse.  we spent hours (maybe an hour) re-reading our old favourites which we grew up with in our little cottage called "alroy" (we did not name it - it was alison and roydon - why did people do that?) in rosebank - in our minds a bit like the little village where m-m-m lived (but not really) because we were on the railway line and definitely did not have a thatched roof.

introducing milly-molly-mandy to amy and kelly, my nieces was a bit like when i hired the video of the party with peter sellers to watch with my boys when they were young.   the were all equally unimpressed.

i would like to share my copy with you


if you did not know her, milly-molly-mandy's world was so uncomplicated and simple.  it was one of my favourite childhood pleasures.  on opening the book you looked at the map of her world:-


you went on to follow her adventures when she went fishing with billy blunt, you were envious when the little attic room where they used to store jam was converted into her new bedroom, you were a tad bored when she learnt to make a patchwork tea cosy (just for you gareth) and were in awe of her first camping out trip.  a snippet from the chapter "milly-molly-mandy camps out":-

"When Billy Blunt came back with his rugs and things (loaded up on his box on wheels) they asked him if it were very creepy-feeling to sleep out of doors.  And Billy Blunt (having slept out once) said "Oh, you soon get used to it," and asked why they didn't try it in their tent.  So then Milly-Molly-Mandy and little-friend-Susan looked at each other, and said firmly, "Let's ask!" So little-friend-Susan went with Milly-Molly-Mandy up to the nice white cottage with the thatched roof, where mother was just putting a treacle-tart into the oven.

She looked doubtful when Milly-Molly-Mandy told her what they wanted to do.  Then she shut the oven door, and wiped her hands, and said, well, she would just come and look at the tent they had made first.  And when she had looked and considered, she said, well, if it were still very fine and dry by evening perhaps Milly-Molly-Mandy might sleep out there, just for once."


don't you love the pictures.  i, much to my strict aunt anne's disgust, could not stop myself from colouring them in.  they looked like they needed it, to me



red thatched roof, don't think so.

i have to just show you one last picture of her kitchen:-



sorry, one more:-



off blackberry picking with little-friend-susan with sticks to reach all the berries.  the whole family waving goodbye, not a thought of rapists or drunk drivers.

no wonder amy and kelly think the stories are "weird".

if i have whet you appetite - norman has them at his bookshop at belvedere park for 40 sa rands each.  treat yourself.  only the covers are not quite the same and you will have to colour your own pictures.

how to write good

so, i have sent the link to my "frequently emailed family and friends" and am feeling encouraged.  thanks for the feedback.  the "bestest sister" has presumably not checked her emails or forgotten her password and "busiest brother" has me on his "to do list".  as kelly would say "no offence but...."

i spent last night looking for "the book" notes and on going through my papers found this bit of trivia you may or may not have seen. 

the simple but often forgotten rules of english:-

  1. avoid alliteration. always
  2. prepositions are not words to end sentences with
  3. avoid cliches like the plague
  4. parenthetical remarks (however relevant) are unnecessary. (what about the - dash -?)
  5. it is wrong to ever split an infinitive
  6. one should never generalize
  7. contractictions aren't necessary
  8. elimate quotations.  as ralph emerson once said "i hate quotations. tell me what you know"
  9. comparisons are as bad as cliches
  10. don't be redundant; don't use more words than necessary; it's highly superfluous
  11. be more or less specific
  12. understatement is always best
  13. exaggeration is a billion times worse than understatement
  14. one word sentences?  eliminate
  15. who needs rhetorical questions?
i break most of the rules and you will note that the use of capitals at the beginning of a sentence is not mentioned above (i did not leave it out, promise). writing and emailing my friends in lowercase has just become a habit.  it helps me separate business and pleasure and makes things quicker for me.  i know it irritates a lot of people.  you? 

miss jones, my english teacher at "that school" is not on my mailing list........yet.  she may one day be proud of me!!

Tuesday, 5 April 2011

my first facebook friend - April 2007




Tribute To Nicky Deacon
Andrew Deacon
 
hi mom, having fun on face book:)?
 09 April 2007 at 19:01See friendship ·LikeUnlike · ·
 
 

 
Nicky you're the coolest mom
invite my mom!
 
09 April 2007 at 19:01 ·LikeUnlike · · See friendship
 
 
        Nicky Deacon and Jenny Rosslee are now friends.
12 April 2007 at 09:40 ·LikeUnlike · · See friendship
 
 
·        ----- Original Message -----
From: "Jenny Rosslee" <jenny@coulters.co.za>
To: "Coachman's Cottage B&B" <coachmanscottage@icon.co.za>
Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2007 10:14 AM
Subject: Fw: Nicky Deacon has written on your wall...

hi nix
didn't your mom tell you never to write on people's walls???
and especially if i am your friend
have had a look at facebook but too scared to go in tooo deep cos it could
take up more of my work time...and you should know how pressurized and rivetting my job is :)
how do these kids have sooo many friends?
i only have 1....
and my face is a question mark
and gareth will never ever befriend me on facebook - going to be interesting
maybe you should poke him first - don't think he will say no to you!!!
will call you later?
lots of love
ps.  thanks for writing on my wall - i will find out how to write on your one sooon.
oh and i did spy the very risque picture of your niece - oh my word...she is stunning
you see i am a stalker!!!

 ----- Original Message -----
From: "Facebook" <wallmaster+o9EZfVj9@facebookmail.com>
To: "Jenny Rosslee" <jenny@coulters.co.za>
Sent: Tuesday, April 10, 2007 11:04 PM
Subject: Nicky Deacon has written on your wall...
Nicky has written something on your wall.

To see what Nicky wrote, follow the link below:
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=658375428

Thanks,
The Facebook Team
ps
for those who don't know, Nicky passed away on 3 july 2007
i miss her everyday

Monday, 4 April 2011

but i regress.......

this book which is now a blog is now not quite a simple as i orginally thought.  you need a place to start and i have just blurted forth in the first posting - so do i now need to change the order a bit?  i am sure you will forgive me and it will make sense (eventually).

i am now heading back in time to 2002.  have you ever had a moment in your life where everything suddenly makes sense and fits into place?  when the cloud suddenly lifts and you feel amazingly free and happy.

i have always considered myself to be a happy and positive person.  even after my divorce 2 years previously it was because i knew that i made made the right decision everything was relatively easy.  once i was over the hurdle of breaking the news to the 3 boys i knew that everything would be ok.  i had the support of family and friends and although financially it was hard, everything was ok.

why was this day different?  i had taken gareth off at around 7 to the subway from where he walked up to campus.  the routine was the same - took rusty for a quick walk to the top of albion road and back before the traffic, woke the other two up and started making sandwiches.  once nic and matt said goodbye and left for school i could start getting ready for work.  i had the house to myself, collected empty coffee cups from the bedrooms and while in gareth's room i switched on the cd player.  they had been listening to the dave matthews band the night before - my favourite song was track 9.  i never know the title - crush or crazy - i like to call it "the crazy song" - anyway i played it once, then twice, then louder and louder.  i must have played it more than 10 times and each time it played i felt better and better - not that i ever felt bad, you understand?  it was as though all the strain of the last 10 or so years was gone, the difficulty in trying to get out of a destructive marriage, trying to put on a happily married face, trying to keep your children happy - it all just lifted.

in that hour i just knew how much i had to be thankful for, how i loved my little, shabby cottage in rondebosch and that my children were just great.

and i was late for work